JUST JINXY

Great post today. I’ve never understood the whole fascination with black men in this lifestyle. Some people love it and more power too them but sometimes it seems to crowd out other far more interesting things. One of the things I like most about your site is that it isn’t all BBC all the time to the exclusion of all else.

My wife and I were just talking about this today before we saw this blog… the idea that there is supposed to be something humiliating for me about her having sex with a black man is totally foreign to us. That’s not to say we would ever judge anyone else. This particular fetish just doesn’t make sense for us.

Your post makes a lot of sense Jinxy. Why should you or anyone else deny themselves a potentially good sexual encounter solely on the basis of skin color? There are, at least in my experience, a lot of other more important factors which determine whether a NSA hookup will be good, great or mediocre. Cock size, sure, but also stamina, skill and experience, fitness, enthusiasm, empathy, attractiveness, intelligence, etc can play a huge role.
In my relationship it’s most important to me that Peaches (my softer half) gets the proper pounding she needs and deserves from other men, black, white or latino. Like a lot of husbands in this lifestyle, I was the one who pushed her initially to try BBC. It was my fetish, not hers, and she went along with it enthusiastically because she also gets off on what gets me off. She hasn’t regretted it and Peaches, like you, has had some great experiences with black guys — and some mediocre ones too.
Having said that, one has to wonder why the vast majority of cuckold men are white. Do you even know of any sites of black hubby/white wife? Please share if you do, for curiousity’s sake.

I confess: It’s been a point of some tension that I find much of the “black bull” stuff to be pretty horrific. As an African-American man, I cringe that so much of the porn out there is like the Hip-Hop scene, driven by caricatures of “hardcore”, of what feels like racial stereotyping. And I cringe even more when I meet and date women who expect that I’ll deal with them in that way, esp. as I’m a Dom. It’s even worse when, as some women have said, being a Dom should be “natural” to a man like me!

Since so much of what drives nontraditional sexuality in the West is centered around porn, that’s a stab as to why the situation is so. There’s a lot more I can say about why White men tend to be cucklods (societal/cultural expectations and economic status are big points here), but I’ll refrain from dropping an essay in your comments!

To sum up: It’s not being a “fetish” that’s an issue, it’s the baggage that comes with it — and what that baggage says about how people see men of my Ethnic heritage in America, today — that weigh me down, and makes me wary. I’ve been burned once too much by these issues.

Indeed, although I find you very intriguing, I’ve resisted interacting with you, in part, because I wasn’t sure where you were with all this; finding out your “expansion” into Black men was just tasting “forbidden fruit” would have made me pull away more. You saying this, Jinxy, makes me more comfortable admiring you, and impressed by your writings. Once again.

What I find is it is the porn industry that has brain washed some people into thinking only a black guy can be a bull.

There is nothing wrong with a couple only have a preference for a black guy. Just has there is nothing wrong for only have a preference for a white guy or a latin guy.

One of my favourite memories years ago in my early 20′s. Was meeting this young woman who happened to be East Indian. I’m white. She wanted a little fling and I figured why not. At the time I had no idea about cuckolding or being a Bull. But she had to be the horniest girl I’ve ever had in my life. But the part I liked the most was the first time unloading in her mouth and sending her home to her boyfriend. The next time in her pussy. I never did see her again. Lost contact. But it always made me wonder if he ever found out. It was also extra kinky in that she was not white.

Love this site and you. Great post. The real issue here is “racial humiliation”. That is what ninety percent of the wannabe cucks are into but can’t come to grips with. Most cucks are into humiliaton, so they think their wives fucking a a black man is more humiliating. How fucked up is that? Cuckolding will never be mainstream until it looses it’s polarizing racial aspects, both ways.

I am into D’s and a switch and know some black doms, they say the same thing. The fetishizing of black men is not a good thing. I could write a book on this, LOL.

I’ve attending some “race play” seminars and it is a very hotspot topic in D/s. The last one started with, race play is a very taboo subject, unless that is you are talking about racially humliating the white male, that is just fine, politically correct, and cute.

I know why you advertise as a bbc slut, on some sites, that is where the money is at. I know you are not from reading your posts though. Horny emasculated white males who have no idea what cuckolding really is, is where the money is at. Still, I love you, and is why I joined this site. You seem very real. Racial humiliation can be hot but we have to know what is fantasy.

Noir – i would be interested in hearing your theory on why white men tend to be cuckholds if you care to share it sometime. As a cuck-wanabee myself race doesnt matter a jot to me, all i would care about is that my Wife is getting pleasured by Her studs. However, from a purely aesthetical point of view there is something very visually appealing from seeing a black man sex a white woman (and vice versa).

Nice post, an interesting topic for sure which You covered quite well thanks.

I agree Jinxy; there is No reason You should limit Yourself.