Get it? Got it! Good.

It seems to surprise people when I make a video or write a blog that actually makes sense. Well, maybe I shouldn’t say surprise… more like it sparks conversation and thoughts that one either has or hasn’t had before on the topic – which I MORE than welcome! All this conversation gives me ideas for future videos and such. ;)

On my most recent YouTube video discussing cuckold angst, there was a comment made, saying it seems like I have a very good understanding of the mental aspect of this lifestyle. Not a mean comment by any standards, but more of a compliment. I think what really makes me say “Hmm” is the assumption that a Cuckoldress, living this type of open, honest, meaningful lifestyle daily wouldn’t have an understanding of both sides of the coin.

One of the things I talk about in nearly every video or blog is communication between the cuckold and Cuckoldress. If you’re not open and honest with each other, how can you both expect to benefit from this type of relationship? With me, I may not understand every last bit of emotion that my cuck is experiencing or why he thinks of things the way he does, but I would like for him to try to explain it to me. Even if it means trying to equate it to something I’m going through, or even a hypothetical situation. (And sometimes we have to go through it about five or six times before I finally “get it”.) The best way for me to make this relationship amazing for both of us, is for me to understand his wants and needs.

But wait, Jinxy! Isn’t cuckolding all about what the woman wants? Cuckolding is about the woman’s sexual satisfaction, not necessarily ONLY about the woman wants in all aspects of life. Don’t get me wrong, there are some cucks that get no greater pleasure than being ignored by their woman, as she’s being selfish and it’s all about her… and occasionally she’ll throw the cuck some form of humiliation. (Honestly, I think that’s more of a femdom relationship and less of a cuckolding one, but each cuckolding relationship is different due to other fetishes that are included.) But most cuckolds are just as greedy as we women, they want to get something out of this too. They know they’re not good at sex, so they have to find other ways for excitement and arousal. Knowing what my cuck is excited by, or even what really turns him off, can help our relationship grow. :)

  • Randall

    That really was a great video, the one about cuckold angst. There is one thing you said in this blog today and have said many times before – that cucks ‘know they are not good at sex.’

    I just don’t think that is universally the case at all and there is no particular reason why it should be. The cuckold fantasy and lifestyle is nearly 100% mental. There is no reason to think that this fetish (or orientation or lifestyle, choose your word of choice) would be any more common among men with say smaller than average penises or among those who were less sexually ‘skilled.’ Of course, many men wired this way do get off on the humiliation of ‘being replaced’ or denied or seeing his wife go off with someone ‘better’ or bigger. But that is just the mental piece of it all.

    I strongly suspect that you could take any man with this strong cuckold fantasy and double the size of his penis or give him untold sexual skills that he did not have before and he would still be a cuckold in his mind.

  • Rphil815

    A great cuckold relationship is not so different than a great marital relationship. Both parties have to be in tune to meeting each other’s needs and desires.

    It’s a fine line to walk but what makes our marriage work so well is we are both committed to each other. My wife knows I am not into humiliation so she will never belittle me or mock my attempts to please her which make me want to please her all the more. We are open and honest enought with each other to admit her sex drive is stronger than mine and she appreciates my efforts to insure she has time and space to meet with her lovers.

    Together we make this work and together it keeps getting better and better.

  • MattUK

    From a male perspective I think it’s an unfortunate fact that the internet is overflowing with profit centered cuckold content and it’s very rare to find something as open and discussive as the videos and blogs you produce.

    I’ve been chasing this particular dragon for the best part of 5 years and today is the day I found your website and is also the first time I’ve found a website that isn’t either aimed solely at men from a humiliation standpoint or told solely from the perspective of a woman acting as though she were single.

    In the same way as watching endless penis size humiliation can leave you with a false perspective of your own endowment, viewing the supposed cuckoldress websites that are out there can make a man think that it’s impossible for a real woman to actually enjoy cuckolding in it’s definitive form.

    I know today I’ve been blown away in a positive way by reading through your blog and watching your videos, and at the same time I’ve also been aware that my reaction SHOULD be an over-reaction and that websites carrying the compassion and honesty of yours should be far more commonplace.

    That said, it’s been a very enjoyable experience so far so I thank you for that. I have questions and curiousities about your situation and answers that I’m seeking relating to my own but I’ll keep those for another day :)

  • MattUK

    I couldn’t agree more with Randall by the way :)

  • http://littleshaunsblog.blogspot.com little shaun

    Regarding the cuckold angst clip, I loved when you almost rolled your eyes when you made the comment about the husband reclaiming his wife by “taking back what’s his”. The subtle yet devilish way you gestured is one of the many qualities that make you such a coveted Cuckoldress.

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