That’s the honest, ugly truth.

Last year I gave an interview to HotwifeBlog.com, and for the record, I absolutely, positively adore the webmaster/owner. ;) Definitely one of the coolest dudes I’ve yet to meet. Anywho, I recently had an email come in, asking me to explain something I said. Here’s an excerpt from that email:

Jinxy.
In an answer to a Hotwifeblog interview question put to you dated Nov 6, 2009, you said:…
“To be quite honest I would by extremely jealous if [my husband] wanted to have sex with another woman.”

When I first read this I was dumbfounded by your statement considering your husband’s selfless generosity supporting you in your sexuality and your proselytizing of your cuckolding lifestyle to others.

In the interest of learning more about your lifestyle and some of its hurdles and your feelings, could you elaborate more on your feelings of jealousy in a hypothetical case where your husband simply expressed an interest in having sex with another woman? What if he actually did it? Would that be a possible divorceable offense?

This request would be easy to brush off simply by saying “Oh my husband would never want to have sex with another woman, so I don’t have to worry about that.”

But my question is about your feelings hypothetically–not your husband’s.

…ps : I hope you don’t think my request is meant to be mean-spirited. I actually support your lifestyle as long as you get full support you husband.

Since you asked, it’s time for me to confess. I can be a bit jealous and somewhat possessive when it comes to my husband. I want to be the center of his world, the sparkle in his eyes. I try everyday to keep him happy, whether it’s by grabbing some cough drops at the store because I noticed he was running low, or by making sure the kids have washed off the kitchen counters before he gets home from his stressful day at work, or getting out of my workout clothes or pajamas and wearing something cute and slightly revealing when I go visit him at his place of employment.

It’s OK with me for him to think other women are pretty or attractive; I’m not stupid enough to believe he would never look at another woman in that way. But when it comes down to it, I want to be the one he wants to fuck like crazy. I want to be the one he desires, for every reason imaginable. Thinking that he would want to have sex with another woman just eats me up with jealousy, and I guess you could say insecurity. Why would he want another woman? Am I not everything he could ever want? Is there something I could do better, or try in order to make him desire me again?

He has given me something incredible, something I didn’t even know I could have – control of my sexuality. I know other ladies will agree with me when I say that’s a huge gift. I want to be the best wife and lover possible, because he is being the best husband and lover possible to me. No other woman could do for him what I can and will do for him. I want to be everything to him.

Your question on if my husband had sex with another woman, I will answer as two separate questions. First, if my husband had sex with another woman without my knowledge, I would consider it cheating. I would be very hurt by his actions, and depending on whether he was remorseful or not would determine whether or not it was a “divorceable offense”. If he didn’t care that he hurt me, I would really give our marriage a second glance. If he cared that I was upset, we can be salvaged. Now, if my husband had sex with another woman WITH my knowledge, then obviously it would be with my blessing. I would probably consider us to be in more of an open marriage at that point instead of a cuckolding one, though. I am agreeable to open marriages/ relationships as long as all parties are enjoying it. But since I’m being honest, I would have to question our moving to an open marriage status from the cuckolding status, because if we started off cuckolding that means he wasn’t interested in outside sex. Now he would be? Something would seem really “off”. It would take a lot of discussion but if that’s what he truly wanted, I would be game.

I hope that helps to give you some insight into Jinxypie’s mind.

  • worthless_loser

    Thank you. This is really making me feel better about myself and my desires.

  • http://www.mrsemmakelly.com scott Kelly

    Hi Jinxy,

    Once again, you bring up an interesting point. As a long term cuckold, I feel gratified that my wife takes advantage of her freedom. I don’t expect the same freedom in return. Relationships, especially ones where power is decidedly and consciously skewed on one partner’s favor, aren’t tit-for-tat arrangements.

    In fact, Em has recently, due to her own busy schedule, allowed me to pursue a BDSM relationship with another Female Dominant. But I do not expect to ever have penetrative sex with her and would feel that I had betrayed Em and her trust in me if I did.

    Best,

    scott
    Mrs. Kelly’s Playhouse

  • danny

    The email writer seems to be getting cuckholding mixed up with swinging maybe?
    Obviously everyone is different but i seek a cuckholding relationship because i am unable to satisfy a Womans sexual desires. This does not apply the other way, in fact i could get everything i need from masturbation. I would therefore have no need or desire to go outside the marriage for sexual gratification.
    There is also the submissive element in cuckholding, the cuck mostly hands over control of his orgasms to his Wife so the concept of cheating on Her simply doesnt apply.

  • http://littleshaunsblog.blogspot.com little shaun

    I think the double standard is a great quality in a cuckold dynamic. Part of the allure is that the cuckold has the “lesser” rights in the marriage. My wife is also an extremely jealous person. Deep down, if she could prevent me from talking to all women, no matter what it is about, she would. And I love that it is just the opposite for her.

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