If I say one thing but do another, that makes me a hypocrite. Right? So why would anyone say they believe in living a certain way, but live a completely opposite lifestyle? If you’re going to go around sharing your views and beliefs, then you had better commit to them. Let’s say you tell everyone that you’re a believer in spiritual healing. You would never even consider letting yourself or even one of your children have surgery if the need came about. For those people that refuse medical treatment (in the form of say, chemotherapy or radiation therapy, or even a non-life threatening surgery) and stay strong to their beliefs of spiritual healing, I praise you for sticking true to your beliefs, regardless of what everyone else thinks. But for those that claim they would go with spiritual healing regardless of the situation, and then decide that when some of their worst fears are staring them in the face, they really need medical intervention. While it may have been the smarter choice for their situation, if they go back to claiming they only want spiritual healing from then on, they have then stated one thing while living out different scenarios. Hypocrites.
Growing up, most of us are taught to believe that the man is the head of the household. What the man says, goes! Even if there are objections they shouldn’t be brought to light, it doesn’t matter because the man of the house made the decision and he shouldn’t be questioned… right? What happens to the women when we ask our men to do something? We expect it to be done. No reason to continue sitting on the couch watching TV, we asked our guy to take out the trash. How long until he hops up to his chore? When he doesn’t, we certainly give him an earful, letting him know exactly what we’re thinking. First of all, why isn’t the man making that decision? A woman’s place is to do what her man tells her, not order him around! (Yes, I realize that sounds incredibly sexist.) I’m willing to bet that in most homes, the lady is in charge, regardless of what we like everyone else to believe. So are we being hypocrites when we go around acting like the man is in charge, knowing good and well that behind closed doors we believe something different?
What about turning the other cheek? Say that last week you were explaining to your sister how she should forgive her best friend for talking about her behind her back. People like to gossip, and it’s not hard to admit, her friend was in the wrong, but why throw away 20 years of friendship over one gossipy comment? Then you go in to your place of work to find that one of your coworkers has been gossiping about you. This is a person you felt close to, you have lunch together nearly every day, send funny emails, listen to her rant about her crazy ex-husband or her dog. How could they betray you like that? You’ll never be able to forgive them! Again I say, what about turning the other cheek? If you are spouting those beliefs on someone you truly care about that means you should have no problems following them yourself, right? Or are you going to be a hypocrite and harbor the anger?
I’m not here to tell you how to live your life. I don’t care who does what, we all make our choices and have to deal with the consequences of those choices. I just don’t believe that you should walk around, passing judgement and forcing your beliefs and opinions on everyone when you can’t even live up to what you believe.
I fully believe in and cherish my cuckolding lifestyle. I love the dynamic between my husband and I, we really understand each other in ways that I never had with any other relationship. I’m sure it makes some people sick to see us together because we are usually so happy and in love, you know… one of those couples. Yes, I know that not everyone can live this lifestyle successfully, I know that it’s not right for every couple. But I truly believe there’s no way to have this level of happiness unless you can be totally and completely honest with each other. None of the ‘PC’ talk as to not offend or upset them, you just lay it out on the line. It’s not always easy, but it’s necessary.
You can’t hold back because you’re scared you’re going to upset the other person. If they get mad about it or hurt, at least your feelings are known. “Hey, honey? I just wanted to let you know that I’m not particularly fond of your moustache.” Or what about “You could stand to lose about ten pounds.” You probably would never dream of saying such things to your loved one’s face, but what if you actually felt that way? It may shock them to hear it… they may even be upset (if you don’t currently have a habit of saying what’s on your mind). Now whether they decide they want to shave off the moustache or the pounds is up to them, but at least they know your feelings on the situation.
Let’s take it one step further. “Sweetie, I can tell when we’re having sex that you’re just not into it. Am I not giving you what you need sexually?” Or something along the lines of “You’re great in the sack, but it’s still not enough. Can we have sex more? I have these urges and needs, honey…” Wow, that changes things a bit huh… we don’t feel comfortable talking about sex, sometimes even in the bedroom or with our partner. Sex has always been a dirty or taboo topic, you just deal with what you can get from your partner. If we’re the ones having sex (even if it isn’t as often as we’d like), why can’t we make ourselves comfortable talking about it? It would make us feel better to finally say what’s on our mind, what’s been bothering us, and could very well make a needed or desired change with your sex life. How is that honesty a negative thing?
You may not understand why or how you could be this way, but you have to understand that no relationship is the same. Two people together may have some similarities to another couple, but no couple is EXACTLY the same. You have to live your life the way YOU want to, what’s comfortable and best for you.
I can offer my point of view and suggestions to try to help those that are interested, but in the end don’t let anyone tell you that you have to live a certain way. Not a group of friends, your religion, or your family. People feel like they are forced into a way of living or thinking because of how society will look at them… would you rather be miserable and have everyone look at you like one of the other sheep, or would you rather be happy and not care how you are seen? Do what makes you happy and feels right (without causing pain and suffering to others). General good words to live by, don’t you think? 
Jinxypie 
