Friday (which was Friday the 13th and yes, I’m slightly superstitious) was not my best day. Instead of dwelling on the trivial things, I am now going to pick your brains. Haha, much better than eating your brains, no? Not a zombie Jinxy today.
From time to time, my Cuckolding 101 videos get pulled from whatever site they’re on (previously YouTube, then some other site, currently Vimeo). They now have my account (which I’ve had for like 3 years) under review. Apparently the 101s they pulled were marked “pornography or sexually explicit material”.
I asked the question over Twitter, do you all consider the Cuckolding 101 videos to be pornography? Sexually explicit material? After posting the question I looked up the definition of sexually explicit, just to see if I was missing something (because there’s no need to check the definition of porn – it is what it is). Apparently explicity is more than just nudity or sex. It’s also about the descriptions, writings, etc of sexual activity or anything sexually related (depending on who’s definition you want to look at).
I guess by that definition, I have created something that’s borderline sexually explicit.
I don’t go overboard or in depth and talk about penetration, full on fucking or even oral sex, but I have briefly talked about that and so much more. I think more often than not though, I’m talking about the situations, the thoughts and feelings behind all of this. Answering questions or addressing concerns of viewers or email senders… not describing my latest hot date with a well-hung stud!
It puzzles me why someone would flag and remove these videos, although most of the time I just chalk any complaints up to people not understanding the cuckolding lifestyle. People tend to fear what they don’t understand. They don’t want to open their minds and at least concede that other people feel and live differently than them –and that it’s OK. I’m also a bit unsure now of how to argue my case. They are giving me the option of telling them why I think these videos were removed in error, but … well, as I pointed out earlier, I may be breaking the rules of what THEY consider to be sexually explicit. So many people have used these videos to help their spouse/family understand what cuckolding is, even if they never go through with it. Some have used them as a way to learn more and find new questions to ask. Others simply enjoy watching them to hear what I’m going to talk about this time.
Personally, when I first started out in cuckolding, I wish there had been someone really speaking about what happens, how you don’t have to follow one person’s idea of what cuckolding is to do it – it can be what you and your partner want it to be! Instead it took lots of talking with hubby and reading highly fetishized blogs and message board posts before I figured it out. I read as many “real” articles on cuckolding as I could. Heck, I read everything. Then I wanted to speak my mind a little… tell people how cuckolding has changed me personally (for the better, in my opinion) and how much stronger I feel my relationship is with my husband. I sat down in front of the camera (nervous as heck for a while, then it became just something that I did and didn’t really think about) and let the words come out. Just speaking up, what’s on my mind, or eventually what someone had emailed and asked. That turned into more emails with more questions, and so on. Now, Cuckolding 101 is its own monster, a video that I like to do at least 2-4 times a month to talk with everyone participating in or curious about the cuckolding community.
I guess now the question is, do I try to get them reinstated, fighting my case with the powers that be at Vimeo (or any of the other similar video sites in the future)? Or do I just host them myself and get rid of the middle-man?
What to do, what to do…
Jinxypie 
